When I thought about walking into a pole studio, my heart pounded. My palms were sweaty. The questions swirled:

What will people think? Do moms really do this? Am I even allowed to?

I almost let those fears stop me.

But here’s what really happened…

After leaving my abusive marriage, my daughter had already seen the cracks in me. She saw the nights I cried silently in the dark. The mornings I dragged myself out of bed. The weight of a mother just surviving — not living.

And then one day, she saw me choose something different.

She saw me step into a pole studio, the low lights wrapping me like a soft embrace. Music thumped gently through the speakers — not loud, but steady, like a heartbeat reminding me I was still alive. The metal of the pole felt cool under my hands, grounding me, anchoring me.

At first my movements were shaky, awkward. But slowly, with every spin, every stretch, every exhale, I began to peel back the grief and shame I had carried for far too long. My body moved like a prayer, a meditation.

And over time… she saw me rise.

Not polished or perfect. But real. Raw. Beautiful in my imperfection.

She saw me stumble, laugh, and try again. She saw me take up space in a world that once told me to stay small. She saw me sweat, glow, breathe deeply. She saw me come alive again.

Now, when she looks at me, she doesn’t just see “mom.”

She sees a woman who refused to stay buried.

A woman who chose to heal.

A woman who dared to dance.

And that is what I want her to remember forever:

That honoring yourself is not shameful — it’s sacred.

That healing is possible.

That even if you fall, you can always rise again.

This is what pole dance gave me.

So if you’re a mother and pole dancing feels scary, let me say this: your children don’t just listen to your words — they feel the way you live. They learn from the way you show up for yourself.

And when you choose you, you’re not taking away from them — you’re giving them the greatest gift: proof that life after pain is possible.

Motherhood isn’t a reason not to start pole.

It’s the reason to.

Our Beginner Pole Series is a safe space where you’ll walk in nervous but leave glowing. The music, the movement, the sisterhood — it’s all waiting for you.  Let your children see you rise...